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Originally Posted by bblost As a s/w developer.
The 8-10 hours spent in office go by as if I am in a recreation park or something.
Now if you have a wife who stays at home, do remember that for her it was just another mundane day of cleaning/ washing/ cooking and taking care of children. |
I guess I stand alone here , but I stand in defence of men anyway , and ruffle a few feathers in the process.
You know most people (men if I may say so) have rather mundane humdrum jobs too , only a few of us really work at what we enjoy , and not everyone has that choice to work in their area of interest. It's exactly that reason why people have to be paid to work !
I have read so much about how time-consuming housework is , but if it takes so much time , why is most daytime TV aimed entirely almost exclusively at stay-at-home women ? Truth is housework is drab , but not really as time-consuming as claimed . My father has stayed alone much of his life , in the field . He did his house work himself and still had time for a lot more to do . I have done the whole gamut - sweeping , mopping , dishes , spoons , glasses , washing clothes by hand , watering plants - and done it with some time for homework etc , though not all of them regularly. Not anymore now since we have a maid for the sweeping/swabbing and washing machine for the clothes . Do I think it's below my dignity , or not a man's job ? No , a man's got to do what a man's got to do , and if I were staying all by myself , I'd be doing all those things myself.
Besides , men have made so many gadgets now (washing machine, mixer-grinder, ovens , microwaves , dishwashers ) that has made women's work at home a mere fraction of what was when we did it manually , the first thing married couples get is a TV . Now if they were so busy doing chores , why so many TV programs day long for women ?
Men do a lot of work , domestic chores , which women don't consider . Not just going to pay bills , but plumbing , electrical work , painting walls & windows, fixing the car, sewing machine, iron, fixing stuff that breaks , sadly none of which I can do like my father. But this never gets a mention - to women , it's not "work" . To women , work is what "women" do.
Regarding abuse and domestic violence, those statistics are largely made up too , if they were indeed true one would see many more bruised and bandaged women than one actually does. And ever heard of the women who abuse ? The same studies that claim 40% of women experience DV also report that most of the time it's women who struck first, and that similar ratio of men too are subject to DV . But the feminist lobby approved reports don't reveal that. Some studies show 55% of abusers of children are biological mothers , biological fathers account for 8% . You don't ever hear the complete truth , only parts that they want you to hear. The feminist lobby is a very powerful one , and votes are their newest weapon.
I don't mean to diss women , but women have pretty sick double standards , and if get down to the details , it'll be a long night ahead . They always say , stop violence against women , not stop violence . Majority of victims of violent crimes are male . Surveys publish only figures that show women as victims. Famously , Times of India published a headline , "35% of homeless are women" . And the remaininng 65% ? Times again published "10% of leprosy cases are women" . And the remaining 90% ? Media is a propaganda machine , they report only that they want you to believe.
I'm all for equality , but equality isn't what (most) women want , it's the Orwellian ( Animal Farm ) equality they seek . Assuming we did have real equality , sure enough men would have more of the troubles they don't normally face , women would have a lot a painful trouble that they hardly ever experience being female. And I'm not even talking about stuff that nature ordained upon the genders and can't be changed , I'm only referring to what society has been upto for 1000s of years.
Many women think/claim men's lives are easy, but it's usually flawed comparisons , as in comparing the worse cases of women (say a maid) vs better cases of men (say a banker). Shabana Azmi stated in a news article how women in most Mumbai slums don't have toilets . Do men from those same slums do their ablutions in a posh toilets of the Oberoi ? Look up Wikipedia for suicide rates of men vs women , men commit suicide from 2.5 to 9 times as much in almost every country , middle east included. Only in China are women's suicide rates higher than mens. So if women are treated so unequally , why are men's suicide rates higher ?
I bet once they live the life of a man in the same economic strata , they
will thank their stars most of the time that they're female. But what we get instead are cherry-picked arguments to depict women as victims , while ignoring or even mocking male victims. Hell compare the life of rich influential woman like Angelina Jolie to a dhobi if that's the benchmark of comparisons.
One chap said it well in context of the Titanic incident : There are no feminists when the lifeboats are lowered.
I would like to see equality too , but not the women's cherry-picked variety.