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| Re: Retrospecting: Things I wish I knew in school & college Wow, I am overwhelmed with the responses here. Frankly when I finished writing it, I thought barely anyone would read so much, but I am glad its reached many of you. Thank you for all your honest comments. So many of you have shared your personal stories and it is extremely inspiring. My whole intent here is to try and give some glimpse to the students of what the real world out there is like. What would be expected out of them and what they can do NOW to be in a better position when they step in their work place or place of further education. Some extremely important points that I could gather which were not part of my list are: 1. Managing Money. Takes a month to earn & an OTP to spend. 2. Choice of friends. Understand who really supports you and who is trying to pull you down. 3. Fall, but bounce back. There will be failures, bullies & betrayals. Accept it, learn from it and move ahead. My intent was to take inputs and then create content for a small Face to Face talk which I plan to do in schools and colleges wherever I am allowed. Even if 1% out of those students think through and inculcate habits and behaviors that are mentioned in this thread, I think it would serve the purpose. Once again, Thank you from all my heart for the candid, honest and inspiring replies. No doubt our forums URL feels HOME. Last edited by Dieselritzer : 3rd July 2020 at 17:20. |
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I studied/worked with some nice people but never found a person/mentor to seek advice for all my issues and problems. I had to do this self debate a lot to decide on many things. ![]() Know your limitations, stay humble, help people in need, and respect others. Last edited by Latheesh : 3rd July 2020 at 19:32. | |
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| Re: Retrospecting: Things I wish I knew in school & college Thank you OP for this thread. This is something I keep pondering every now and then. For the most part, due to gods grace I am doing OK despite some set backs. Here is what I wish I would have known during my college days. 1) The best time to add value to oneself is during College: I have been fortunate enough to finish in the top 1 percentile of my attempts, be it graduation in Engineering in a good reputed college and my masters in an even better one. I had always done well academically by which I mean marks , grades, ranks etc. I wish I would have learnt stuff solely for the sake of learning and pushed myself to be the best version of myself. I was working on computer vision algorithms and mobile robots in my major project long long before they were considered cool, however I became complacent after I got placed in a top bank and did not do justice to the problem at hand. Now 12 years later, the very algorithms and experiments that I was exploring when they were research papers are now called cutting edge and During my 10 - 12 hr slogs at office, I wish I knew the value to be gained by doing the same in college working on intellectual problems of my choice. As they say , water under the bridge and I am still playing catch up. 2) Learned how the world really functioned: I was working 16 hrs a day , balancing work and what ever life I could manage, when I was rudely pushed into personal , legal and police hassles. I was naive and suffered quite a bit. in hindsight I feel could have avoided so much pain , if I was smarter about how the world really functioned. 3) Exposed to life changing literature at an earlier age : I have always been an avid reader making use of whatever opportunities growing up in a second tier town offered. Some ground breaking literature for example , works of Ayn Rand ( I know there are hard core supporters as well as detractors of her, but to each his own) I came across post my college and felt this could have shaped my life differently vs reading Issac Asimov stuff. Overall I understand no ones life is exactly what they envision it to be, leave alone what they want it to be in hind sight. But these are few specific things that come to my mind. |
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| Re: Retrospecting: Things I wish I knew in school & college Thank you for the great points and a inspiring thread. VLOOKUP is one of those things which i wanted to learn but never got to it. Now i just dd it. Thanks to a great post. For people who want to learn, i found this to be best : |
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| Re: Retrospecting: Things I wish I knew in school & college @dieselritzer a great thread to start. Managing Money is something which should he taught in schools in a fun away. My parents have been simple people who didn’t know about this subject so never taught us. I learnt it on my own much much later in life and realised how Many years I have lost (not to mention India’s economic growth from the end of 90s till recently). Money needs time as strong multiplier. Most of your ‘friends’ Will not help you in your work area. They are good to go out for dinner, laugh, hang around, but when it comes to endorsing your business or product, no. Some will, but most will not. And it’s fine I guess. You must also do internships very early on in the areas of your chosen interest before you immerse yourself fully in it. This also means spending time if possible in the city of hot action. You should have a small backup plan, a Plan B. For many people it’s counter intuitive. And it’s probably debatable. But it’s an essential life skill. |
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| Re: Retrospecting: Things I wish I knew in school & college What a nice thread @Dieselritzer. However, would like to highlight some lessons I have learnt from my job in construction industry. Learn building relationships managing peolpe- Read books, learn from a mentor, watch videos, etc. Most of a person's working time is spent, at least in my industry, is spent having disscussions, supervision or data sharing. Hobbies- Always have a hobby. It may boost you morale in dire times. Always remeber that bad times will pass. Expansive knowledge- It is necessary to be an expert in particular skill/subject. However, assimilate both theorotical and practical knowledge on other aspects of your field. For example, on a construction site, everyone from a civil supervisor to MEP engineer will come to solve their queries. By this I mean not to wait till you get a different hand-on experience but to learn technical side by studying. |
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BHPian ![]() | Re: Retrospecting: Things I wish I knew in school & college A few personal points I wish to add. I wish I knew: 1. To be nicer to my teachers. I was very harsh, rude and out right a pain for all our teachers. Got kicked out in 10th, inter and college. If it wasn't for my mother I wouldn't even have got a degree. But this turned out to be blessing for me. Since I was never going to get hired I had to start my own company and we are right now one of the top 100 sellers on amazon. 2. To not be a bully, maintain gangs and harass fellow students. Except for the folks in our gang everyone hated me. Of course we are all close friends now and laugh at those days. 3. To not take silly things like cricket matches and bike races so seriously. 4. To have not been so hard on my father regarding buying me a CBZ. He had to run every where because we could not afford one at that time. But seriously, what our schools and colleges never teach is personality development. How to handle one self. Not just studies, over all character development is very important. Creativity, imagination, spirituality and proper channelizing of the students intelligence and intellect is very important. |
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| Re: Retrospecting: Things I wish I knew in school & college Quote:
I was a university topper in college who went on to get two Masters degrees entirely on merit. And yet, this is what I will tell my kids when they are old enough to understand. About Education & Career -
Some general life points -
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P.S. **Even this does not apply to all IITs and IIMs. Only to a select few of them. I am not from these institutes. But, if you manage to get into them you have a high likelihood of surviving and prospering in your career. The brand value of esteemed Indian institutions in India is far greater than the brand value of global institutions around the world (and certainly in India). Case in point, people will instantly accord you respect bordering on reverence if you tell them that you are from IIT or IIM. But, reactions will be far more dilute if you were to tell that you are a Harvard graduate. This is the absolute truth. Cheers Last edited by Aditya : 5th July 2020 at 23:00. Reason: As requested, typo | |
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The amount of effort it takes to get into Harvard is something no IIM guy would have to face, their first emphasis is on work-experience, they grill you and grill you more on what kind of work you did, what you achieved, what you hope to get out of the MBA degree, what you can bring to the mix of graduates to the admission season etc. They typically select very polished, very well spoken, very self-aware and ambitious candidates.. no unpolished diamonds there at all. Suffice to say that if you put a Harvard MBA guy and an IIM guy in an interview scenario, its almost certain that the Harvard guy will demolish the IIM guy in every way possible. IIT and IIM are single-dimensional institutions with the same Indian approach to book-learning and rote, with a little industry exposure and adjunct faculty who are at best, average. Harvard batches are very, very well planned, you typically have people from many countries, on average China, Latin America (Spain, Portugal), India, Europe (mainly England, France & Germany), Australia etc, the East Asian students have gone up substantially since fall batch of '11. Their students also come from a variety of backgrounds, be it a rugby captain of a national team, a paraplegic veteran, an entrepreneur, a dramatist, etc, aside from the usual business and engineering graduates, and they play off each others strengths, philosophies and life experiences. In any case its pointless to even compare the two, Harvard is not only older, its the father of all business education, their marketing care studies are used world-wide, they founded the system of case-study. Its a tie between three institutes for MBA depending on the specialization you want to take, if its finance/operations its MIT-Sloan, marketing is obviously, Harvard, and if its tech then Stanford (as far as I know). I was in the recruiting business for a brief period of time, in which we dealt only with recruiting people in higher/highest positions, it was an understanding that while we can hope to ask questions to the IIM folk, and even interview them to look if they'd fit in, one cannot do that with Harvard/MIT/Stanford people, they know their own value so all we can do is talk salary. Many of my MENSA peers are graduates of Harvard, I can see a huge difference, plain and simple. They carry much more experience from peer learning, are comfortable having very fluent and gentle conversations, are typically to the point and surgical in their communication where the country-grown graduates drone on and on about things etc. I'm not associated with either, but this comes from my experience and meeting graduates of both institutions and also having been loosely associated with the entrepreneurship cell of IIM. Harvard case studies were the only thing of value I learnt in marketing, we need to give credit to the original, IIM's and IIT's are spin-offs. Last edited by dark.knight : 5th July 2020 at 19:11. | |
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I did not mean to offend you. I actually happen to agree with everything you have said. But, your view point has come through your experience which is quite deliberate and studied. But, out there, the vast majority of Indians respect IIT and IIM only. That is not my view. I am simply stating what I have observed. That's all. For what it is worth, I have met IIT and IIM guys who I think are brilliant people and amazing human beings. I have also met an equal number of IIT and IIM guys that make me wonder how such a person got past the entrance obstacles. So, in no way am I starry-eyed of the IITs and IIMs. Cheers | |
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At the end of the day nothing works more than an open mind, a clean heart and a noble intention. I started an entrepreneurial journey with the same 3 pillars, some associates/peers criticized my success (sour grapes syndrome), some relatives doubted my ability and took me for an utter moron (usual relatives behavior) but with the support of parents I took the leap and have been cruising along happily ever since (until corona slammed the brakes). | |
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| Re: Retrospecting: Things I wish I knew in school & college From what I can tell, YouTube videos and online courses from Coursera and the like are far better than any teaching shops in India. You have to select the right channels and the right teachers even here, but you can skip any that you don't like. Don't take my word for it, just watch some of those awful videos from some of these teaching shops on YouTube - I am appalled at the rock bottom rubbish that passes for education even today. I regret that I never had resources like YouTube and Coursera, and I think you can dump that useless piece of paper they give you after listening to years of nonsense from your professors. The only thing makes that paper worth keeping is another interconnected system that artificially inflates the value of that paper - and they have their own reasons for doing so. |
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| Re: Retrospecting: Things I wish I knew in school & college Few inputs from my side: 1. Stop envying: You will never sleep well if you keep comparing yourself with those with more material means. Learn from them, see what skills enable them to get the wealth they do, and work towards those skills. 2. Think long term. What you earn in your 20s and 30s is insignificant for your future well being. Make a marathon out of your career, not a sprint. 3. Talk to parents and wife/partner daily: I do this even today, though I am over 30. Parents depend a lot on you emotionally and a single call even for 10 minutes makes their day especially if they are retired. 4. Never be afraid to be who you are: Someone else may criticize/mock you for your origin and journey. Don't bother. Be accepting of who you are. Never fall for the lure of changing your personality to please others, except when it is professionally recommended. Thanks |
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| Re: Retrospecting: Things I wish I knew in school & college Thanks, Mohan, for nudging me to this thread. I was beginning to drift away! Few disclaimers - 1) Only stating from my direct experience of things. 2) Not differentiating regular colleges and IIT/IIM; Harvard/Wharton/etc. To me they are largely the same. Strip away the labels and look for just few things - how responsibly and well the person does his/her job; and how difficult/easy they are to work with. Nothing else matters much. 3) My views are for a typical common man (that I am) with no god father wings or shields. Things I wish I knew in school & college: The long term growth and success quite often depends on two things - 1) Technical Skills - Expertise in the subject matter and deep understanding of it. 2) People Skills - You should be easy to work with, collaborative, respectful, ability to speak with people without getting judgmental etc. Technical skills are easily learned and mastered. We do that all the time. People skills are (long term) character. Not built overnight! It builds with being introspective and having a degree of self-awareness and observance. The formal education, even from early days, should try and polish both these aspects. As other have mentioned - financial literacy is a must. It should be like how we learn English or some such language. Life would be damn dull if people did not learn few other things - some music or musical instrument; Develop some hobbies like photography; At least a little bit of martial arts; etc. Disagree (vehemently)! There is obviously nothing black and white and many of these will have a broad grey area with wide variety of experiences. I'll place just a few - 1) Many of my friends have had to leave their jobs at GE, HP, Cisco, Amazon, and few other places to go get themselves a masters or PhD degrees. Without that, they were stuck with no further growth after a while. 2) One friend who is now married, with kids and all that is desperately looking to do a distance PhD in CS because his career is stuck without further growth and seemingly the issue is that of the (lacking) higher degree. Too late for him get the degree the regular route - with family to look after. Apart from such cases, a post graduate also helps better refining of the intellect, developing the personality better. But just as I mentioned earlier, it's not that these things cannot happen without post graduate education. Only that the likelihood is higher with that experience of post-grad education. Another point - Majority of undergrads the last few years have had to go towards "IT" for their job options. Only a select few could pursue a career in their chosen majors (electrical / electronics / chem. eng. etc). Quote:
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As one goes higher, one typically sees aspects of transfer of knowledge / learning from a variety of fields they can adapt and get further. Eventually, it does help to have a more well-rounded personality. | ||
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